|There is a famous adage from one of the early Acharonim that says, "Daas Baal HaBayis Hepech Daas Torah", meaning the opinion of the layman is always the opposite of the opinion of the Torah. What does this mean? Are the Baalei Batim alway, but always, wrong? How can that be? Do they ever get right? Even being as Daas Torah is always right, do the Baalei Batim always say the opposite? Do they never by chance agree? This adage was for years a most enigmatic Chazal in my mind, but let's take a crack and unraveling it.
The typical layman views life in a very natural manner. He sees each outcome as the result of many decisions and happenstances along the way. For example if suppose a person had an interview for a job he really wanted. That morning his alarm clock did not go off and he woke up late so he couldn't shower and freshen himself up. Already running late, he gets stuck behind an accident and finally darts into the interview five minutes late, disheveled and out of breathe. Not surprisingly the interview did not go well and he is rejected.
In his mind, if only the alarm clock went off, and if only the driver in front of him wasn't on the phone while driving, and if only... His worldview is that the job could have been his, but a string of bad luck stole it from within his grasp. He spends the next few days thinking what went wrong and how things could have been so different if only...
Daas Torah sees things totally differently. This job was not his, and was never meant to be. The rest is only Hashem's way of playing out the scenario so that he does not get the job. The alarm clock was sabotaged from above and the accident was meant to stop him from coming on time.
Think about everything in your life. How do you view it? if you are spending your days lost in thought figuring out how to change what already happened, replaying life as it should have happened, and swimming in regret, you are a full fledged Balabus. If you are calm and relaxed not breaking your head to decipher what went wrong and why, then pat yourself on the back, you possess a great deal of Daas Torah. Daas Torah sees cause and effect in what we would call a totally backwards manner, where the outcome is the cause, and the steps along the way are all just effects.
A Daas Torah outlook helps us cope with setbacks and supposed failures in the big things in life like health, shidduchim, and parnassah. It also helps a hundred times a day when you are cut off on the road, stepped on in shul, trip on your kids toys, or any other of life's little annoyances.
Life is a journey, and our starting point is pure Daas Baalei Batim. We then proceed through a maze where every first glance just reinforces this misguided outlook. But if we take time to think and look more carefully at the big picture rather than handling each disappointment one by one, we will see a beautifully woven tapestry where each part enhances the beauty of the whole. Through the eyes of Daas Torah the picture will appear to be the complete opposite of the frustrating mess seen through the eyes of Daas Balei Batim. You will stop trying to redraw the picture of your life because it wasn't you who drew it in the first place. It was carefully planned and laid out from far above, with much more wisdom and insight then we can ever possess. May Hashem grant us all the wisdom to see, hear, and comprehend Bisuros Tovos!